| Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo |
Topic: Rekindling The Fire Of Love In Your Marriage! (4)
Dear Reader,
You are welcome to another exciting time in the presence of the Lord. Love, like I said last week, is the key factor that sustains a Christian marriage. But could it still be, considering the fact that the hot romance in your relationship is fading away, and it’s becoming a concern to you?
That is why, this week, it is necessary for me to share with you the basic idea that will help you to rekindle that “fire of love” in your marriage. That is what I call Good and Healthy Romance!
A healthy romance between a husband and wife makes for a healthy marriage relationship. Romance is a great facilitator of a successful marriage. When marriage stops being romantic, it starts to suffer devastation. The moment you stop desiring your spouse, you are already falling apart from each other. At that point, there is the need for a rekindling. Unfortunately, however, this is where many Christians run into problems.
Paul speaking in the Book of 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 says: Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
From the above verses of the Bible, “rendering due benevolence” means to give one another the benefit of marriage, which is your body. God placed in man a sexual desire, which should only be satisfied in marriage. That way, the desire will not be destructive.
But the big question is: why have so many couples denied themselves of this truth? This is where, I believe, some Christians have opened the door to trouble in their marriages. The man is not available for his wife, so she looks somewhere else. The wife is not available for the man, so he goes somewhere else, because the burning must be satisfied.
The Bible says you mustn’t allow your abstinence go beyond a time. Nobody fasts for one year. Even Jesus, the Messiah of the world, only fasted 40 days. The significance of this is that you are not permitted, under whatever reason, to separate from each other for more than 40 days maximum, lest satan tempts you.
To tell your wife today, “I am waiting on the Lord”, tomorrow, “I am waiting on the Lord”, next week, “I am waiting on the Lord.” When you finish ‘waiting’, you may not find her there again. That is why most crises in marriages, today, develop out of sexual tension.
Romance in marriage is one of the areas you must intelligibly manage, because it reinforces the marriage covenant. Take time out with your spouse to go for a dinner date or a picnic in a secluded area away from home. Catch some fun with each other occasionally, like going to the beach or watching programmes of choice alone together. Create time for each other to reminisce happy moments; this will help to spice up a lukewarm marriage.
Having the fear of God resident will also help you spice up your marriage with good romance, instead of finding satisfaction outside the marriage. You can operate in the fear of God cheaply, if you have accepted Christ as your Lord and personal Saviour. Peradventure you haven’t, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship(John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).