| Author: Pastor Faith Oyedepo |
Topic: Rekindling The Fire Of Love In Your Marriage! (5)
Dear Reader,
Welcome to another exciting week.
Last week, I shared with you a basic idea needed in rekindling the “fire of love” in your marriage. In that teaching, I said that a good and healthy romance is the key instrument in rekindling the “fire of love” in a lukewarm marriage.
This week, as we round off the teaching, I will be sharing with you another basic idea –Honest Communication!
Honest communication connotes getting to the point where you can communicate with transparency and vulnerability. It is another way of rekindling the “fire of love” in your marriage. The need to constantly improve your communication skills and strategy cannot be over-emphasized.
A wise man said, “If you talk together, you stay together“, and I believe it is very true, especially since marriage is about living together. Honest communication is necessary in order to comprehend what truly motivates the other party, when they have differing points of view.
It is important to say here that many marriages break down, not because couples do not communicate with one another, but as a result of faulty communication. The dictionary defines communication as the art of passing information across; the transference of thoughts. Therefore, give expression to your life by talking!
Some couples find it difficult to reveal their innermost feelings to each other; this ought not to be. Learn to communicate your feelings, thoughts, joys, fears, challenges, and even plans. As you do, you will discover that the bond between both of you will grow stronger, and your relationship will be firmly cemented.
Never go to bed at night with something against your wife or husband in your mind. If you do, you may have nightmares and bad dreams. Make sure that whatever needs to be sorted out is done same day, as this will go a long way in cementing the relationship between you and your spouse.
The Bible says: …Teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in our hearts to the Lord (Colossians 3:16). Therefore, learn to communicate spiritually, so that you can both press on to greater spiritual heights.
Also, endeavour to communicate socially, by educating your spouse on things he/she is ignorant of. For instance, due to your partner’s background, he or she may not know certain social manners, such as table manners, matching colours, appropriate dressing codes for various occasions, etc. In such situation, you need to educate your spouse in love to save him/her from being embarrassed.
Communication can also be done financially. God expects a husband and wife to be financially transparent to one another. Money has put many homes asunder; don’t let it do same to yours.
God created you with a sound mind. So, when a sound mind comes in contact with another sound mind in marriage, the two of them will operate at a better realm of living.
Lastly, husband and wife are also expected to be helpers of one another, physically. Please, be available for each other because marriage is meant for better living.
To obtain wisdom for honest communication, you need to accept Jesus, Who is the Wisdom of God, as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are yet to do so, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).