Attaining Intimacy In Marriage By Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Topic: Attaining Intimacy In Marriage (Part 1)

Dear Reader,

Happy new month to you in the name of Jesus Christ! With great joy and happiness, I bring God’s Word your way today. I see God doing something new in your home and family in Jesus’ name. I will be sharing with you a topic which I titled: Attaining Intimacy in marriage.

It is very important that we know that marriage is the mystery of two people becoming one. Intimacy is the pillar of every successful marriage and it is the responsibility of both parties. When we talk about intimacy, the husband and wife should be the most intimate persons and best of friends.

What is intimacy?

Intimacy is the closeness of your relationship with your spouse – emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, sexually, and in many other ways. Intimacy is not an end but rather a journey that lasts throughout your marriage. Intimacy means a warm, close, confidential or private relationship, which develops through long association, friendship and familiarity.

UNDERSTANDING THE NEEDS FOR INTIMACY

Spiritual Needs

You must understand your likes and needs spiritually as husband and wife and help each other to attain it. For example, if your husband likes waking up in the middle of the night to read or study, you can be of help to him by alerting him when it is time to wake up:You, too, can also do likewise and make him a cup of hot tea. You can encourage him to do some spiritual exercise that he needs.

Emotional Needs

For intimacy to be developed in a marriage, you must understand your husband’s emotions. When he is depressed, try to find out what is happening and encourage him. You must not allow an “uncaring attitude” to creep into your home.

Psychological Needs

You must also understand some masculine peculiarities like desire for:

• Profound respect
• Admiration

These are two basic things, which every man craves from his wife.

PHYSICAL NEEDS: – Intimacy can be developed if you understand what your husband’s physical needs are and meet them.

You should satisfy his physical needs by

• Giving your husband the type of food he likes, and not the one you like. Even, if you do not like a particular type of food before, you could try to adjust simply because of him.
• Always wear the colour or type/style of dress he likes, not the one you want to wear. If he does not like a particular dress, it is not advisable to keep wearing such.
• Adopt hairdos or styles that he likes, not what you like.
• Be available to him when he wants to make love to you.
• Do everything to please him. This will aid in developing intimacy because he will trust and have interest in you.

Companionship

Every man is created to crave constant fellowship. It is one of the major motivating factors that draw two people of the opposite sex together. After creation, the only thing that God called “Not good” was the fact that man was alone. Loneliness has been discovered to be one of the causes of mental retardation and erratic behaviours in many people, who are in that condition.

True companionship is what makes marriage meaningful. Spouses are not meant to be roommates but the closest of friends. The Word of God says: Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend (Proverbs 27:17).

It is unfortunate that many couples are missing out of this wonderful aspect of marriage. They live under the same roof, yet they are more or less strangers. Such marriages are empty and with time, their frustration leads to divorce. This is not the will of God. He expects you to have sweet communion not only with Him, but also with your partner.

The first step to take to enjoy intimacy in your marriage is to have an intimate relationship with your Creator; that is, be born again. You become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus Christ as the Lord and Saviour of your life and family. If you are already born again, rejoice because your case is settled. If you are not yet born again and you desire to do so right now, please pray this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through [email protected], 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

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Pastor Faith Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.

Topic: Learning to Cope with Criticism [Joyce Meyer’s Devotional Thursday September 13, 2018]

The wicked borrows and does not pay back, but the righteous is gracious and kind and gives. — Psalm 37:21 (AMP)

No matter what we do in life, at some point in time we will all face a level of criticism. But it is possible to learn how to cope with criticism and not let it affect your life.

We can be grateful for the example the apostle Paul set for us. Paul experienced criticism often, but he said that he was not concerned about the judgment of others. He knew he was in God’s hands and that in the end he would stand before God and give an account of himself and his life. He would not stand before any man to be judged (see 1 Corinthians 4:3–4).

You may not always do everything right, but God sees your heart. If you’re attempting to live for God and looking for ways to love others, God is pleased (see Matthew 22:37–40). Don’t worry about the criticism of others; God loves you. His love and approval are all you need.

Prayer Starter: Father, I thank You that I don’t have to listen to the criticism of others. You see my heart and You know my motives. I thank You that Your approval is greater than the approval of any person. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

If you missed yesterday devotional, please click to read “Joyce Meyer Daily Devotional HERE’’

From Joyce Meyer’s Ministries.

Topic: Ask The Right Questions [Teens Open Heaven 13 September 2018]

Memorise: And there were four leprous men at the entering in of the gate: and they said one to another, why sit here until we die? – 2 Kings 7:3

Read: Joshua 4:20-22 (KJV)

Bible In One Year: Proverbs 23-24, 2 Corinthians 5

MESSAGE:

From the story in 2 Kings 7:3, we realise that the deliverance of the lepers started from a question; “Why sit here until we die?’’ Do you know that if they had not asked that question, they would have died unknown? If you ask yourself the right questions, you will not remain on the same spot for long.

On the other hand, if you are not used to asking why certain things turned out the way they did, or why you have continued to suffer from a particular problem, you may never see its end, your present situation is the product of certain steps, actions and decisions you took yesterday. So, ask yourself “Why?”

Teens Open Heaven 13 September 2018 Prayer Point: 

Help me Lord to see what my problems are, and help me to do what it takes to solve them.

Also Read: Teen Open Heaven Daily Devotional by Pastor Adeboye

Teens Open Heaven 13 September 2018 Hymn 2:

1. When we walk with the Lord in the light of His Word,
What a glory He sheds on our way!
While we do His good will,
He abides with us still,
And with all who will trust and obey.

Chorus:
Trust and obey, for there’s no other way
To be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey.

2. Not a shadow can rise, not a cloud in the skies,
But His smile quickly drives it away;
Not a doubt or a fear, not a sigh or a tear,
Can abide while we trust and obey.

3. Not a burden we bear, not a sorrow we share,
But our toil He doth richly repay;
Not a grief or a loss, not a frown or a cross,
But is blessed if we trust and obey.

4.But we never can prove the delights of His love
Until all on the altar we lay;
For the favor He shows, for the joy He bestows,
Are for them who will trust and obey.

5. Then in fellowship sweet we will sit at His feet,
Or we’ll walk by His side in the way;
What He says we will do, where He sends we will go;
Never fear, only trust and obey.

Daily Devotional for Teen’s guide was written by Pastor E.A. Adeboye, the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, one of the largest evangelical church in the world and also the President of Christ the Redeemer’s Ministries.

Topic: Putting First Things First [DCLM Daily Manna 13 September 2018 Daily Devotional]

Text: Haggai 1:1-15 (KJV)

Key Verse: “Thus speaketh the LORD of hosts, saying, This people say, The time is not come, the time that the LORD’S house should be built. Is it time for you, O ye, to dwell in your cieled houses, and this house lie waste?“ (Haggai 1:2,4).

MESSAGE:

One of the most challenging tasks we have in life is making choices. The problem really is not in choosing between the good and the bad. Many of us are already wise enough to know how to do this. But the challenge really is in choosing between the good and the best. This is where many people stumble and this is where we need to display the highest form of discretion.

Prophet Haggai challenged the people of Judah to set their priority right. They had the mental belief that God was first, supreme and above all. Yet this belief was not reflected in the way they were living. The house of God laid waste and unattended to, while theirs were luxurious mansions. God rebuked them for this. God’s house must be built first otherwise their labours will result in futility.

This is the same challenge the Lord is giving us today. Many of us believe that God should take the first place in our lives but practically, we are not demonstrating this. When it comes to building the house of God or giving our time, talent and resources for the service of God, we tend to consider ourselves first. Make a comparison of your personal house to the church of God; which takes your first consideration? Do you not rather consider your work, business, career, family, and so on first before you think of God and His service?

If we want the best from God, then we must give Him the first place in our lives. Many people experience inexplicable failures and loses in life because they have not truly accorded God the first place. Repent now; do the right thing and God will bless you beyond your imagination.

Thought For The Day: God will grant true blessings when we put Him first.

Bible Reading In One Year: Joel

If you missed yesterday devotional, please click to read Deeper Christian Life Ministry, DCLM Daily Manna HERE

DCLM Daily Manna was written by Pastor William Folorunso Kumuyi; is the founder and General Superintendent of the Deeper Life Bible Church situated at KM 42 on the busy Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, Nigeria.

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Lord Jesus, come into my life. I accept You as my Lord and Personal Saviour. I believe in my heart You died and rose from the dead to save me. Thank You Lord for saving me, in Jesus name Amen.

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